" love is when you have an argument and he has proof to totally debunk your argument and he keeps quiet so that he doesn't hurt you . "

i know i haven't been all that persistent in my updates but i've got excuses - tim has grabbed the internet along with the phone line to his new pad ; i've had a mountain of assignments due almost simultaneously ; i'm in the midst of organising a dual-move ( you don't really want to know about that ) ; and it's just been chaos down under .

it's really ironic that i've had almost no experience in relationships ( and those that i have had manage to be so completely screwed up beyond repair that to even mention them would be taboo ) and somehow i've become the go-to person for relationship advice .

i wish i knew how to make a relationship work . the truth is i don't think anyone really does ( anyone also includes those relationship experts that promise you that your relationship will see instantaneous results after 5413643175 consultations and $64, 326, 532, 754 ) . how can anyone presume to understand the interactions between two individuals ? in an attempt to make sense of it all , we try desperately to convey our thoughts and feelings to anyone who'll listen , but mostly just end up with " you know what i mean ? " i may have been there and done that , but you're not me and you wouldn't have done what i did . so i'm sorry , but i don't know what you mean because i'm not you .

i love it when i come across a quote from someone that manages to sum up what i'm trying to say . the above quote sums up precisely what i need to say to my boy . i don't blame him because it's just how he is ; and i'm equally guilty of wanting to prove a point at times . but love is knowing when to shut up because you don't always have to drive someone into a corner just to prove a point . love is so many things that it makes you wonder if it's even worth it . forsake yourself for someone else ? who the hell came up with this bullshit anyway .

having said that , i wouldn't give him up for the world because when he tells me "everything will be alright " , i believe him . and i don't really care if he has to win a couple of stupid arguments because he does what no one else can ; he makes me feel like i did 4 years ago - in control .



xoxoxoxoxo ,
soho
ps : i ripped the quote above from a blog that i just discovered thanks to lianne .